When You Love Somebody....

I keep getting Dear Lauren emails about grown ups trying to define their relationships. Clearly from my last post you can see I too suffer from trying to define my situation. There seems to be too many people worrying about labels and what they mean instead of enjoying the person they are with for who they are and what they contribute to their lives. I pondered the topic of relationships, as I often do, and came up with a few sage words of wisdom. These are just my simple musings as I ponder l'amore and why it's so hard for so many of us to get right.

*le sigh*

The time that you're with someone is when you're with them. When you are not, you are with yourself and that should be good enough. Placing a label on what you're doing isn't like awarding someone a promotion at a company. The job is a tangible, concrete thing with measurable goals and results. Your relationship, if a happy one, is the stuff dreams are made of. You can't measure or define a dream. Dreams are fluid, wispy, and flow like water in whatever direction they choose.

The dimensions of a relationship are decisions that two people make regardless of their geography. Regardless of where you are, you are where your heart is. If you decide to let someone in your heart and hold them there, then you are together no matter where the two of you are. Look at the military couples who have to make considerations for their distance and know that they are going to be apart for at least 18 months. They make allowances and acceptances, but they are still together. As long as you're together in each other's hearts you always will be together.

Love and monogamy are not mutually exclusive. You can love someone madly and deeply and not be exclusive with them. Look at your best friend. You probably love and adore your best friend above all of your other friends, but yet and still you will always have other friends. Having other friends doesn't take away from the love you have for your truest friend. It doesn't make you any less of a friend to your bestie just because you have other friends.

The thing is, some people have a notion that there's a scarcity of everything and others have a notion that there is an abundance of everything. The objective in your life should be to be on the side of the abundance. There is only as much love in your life as you believe there is, so BELIEVE!

Love is boundless, love is limitless, love doesn't have an area code on it. Love is never wasted. Don't live life afraid to give it because you're afraid of getting your feelings hurt or losing your love.

SMOOCHES!!!

SHINE ON!!!